Life Lessons From A Gal Who Has Yet To Declare Her Major

Welcome to the ride! I'm a 40 year old woman who has set out to rediscover herself.



I'm a married, full-time working mother who's looking for a little more, a little different....or maybe just myself.



Pre-marriage and motherhood, my identity was closely linked to my career, my mom, my friends and my home. Within a few years I was married, moved away from my home town, my mom, and my friends, sold my home, become a mother, left the company where I worked for eight+ years, and began a new career. So, some major life changes and decisions within a small amount of time and in some ways I'm still reeling from them.



Life is just a string of decisions, right?...some small and nearly inconsequential and some life-altering. This is where I share my decisions and indecisions on my path back to rediscovering who I really am. I hope you enjoy the ride as much as I do!!















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Saturday, October 23, 2010

Leave No Stone Unturned

So the other day I was reading about an exercise that helps you identify your true purpose in life.  Not your next job, or even career choice.  It was about identifying something more encompassing than a good 401k match and stock options. It was about pinpointing your soul's desire.  The exercise suggested you take a blank piece of paper or computer screen, empty your head, no TV, radio, other people around, and start writing the first thing that comes to your head.  And continue to write even if you repeat words or get blocked for a few minutes.  The point was to just stick with it until you hit on something significant.  It could take up to an hour to arrive at your true purpose and you would know it when you write something that makes you cry.   

So, I did it.  I didn't do it more than 15 minutes because I started to nod off.  It was late.  And I didn't cry when I typed any of the phrases.  So, technically, I didn't carry out the exercise as inteneded, but I wanted to share what I typed.  The only change I made is my daughter's name.  I changed it to "Cinderella" because she claims to be Cinderella, daily.  And I'm not ready to share her name.

I recommend everyone try this, and try to stick with it longer than I did.  Please share any major revelations. I'd love to hear about them.  Some may think this sort of thing is corny, but I think there's something to be said for removing the mental clutter and expressing whatever sufaces.  I admire people who can do this.

Here's my list:


What is my true purpose in life?
To write
To parent
To succeed
To coach
To help
To work
To struggle
To dance
 To express myself
To keep trying
To persist
To learn to trust myself
To not 2nd guess myself
To forge ahead
To buy shoes
To be a great friend
To take care of my mom
To be a good daughter
To be Cinderella’s mommy
To seek approval
To STOP seeking approval
To lead
To follow
To take a risk
To push forward
To sleep more
To build good memories
To lead
To speak to an audience
To share myself
To keep trying
To be unsure
To be okay with being unsure
To remain hopeful
To hug
To show love
To be loved
To learn to quiet my mind
To be contemplative
To know God
To trust God
To be lead
To open my soul
To explore
To travel
To make a home
To comfort
To create
To paint rooms
Fill them with furniture
Create beauty in my home life
To remain engaged
To cook
To nourish my family
To be okay with nothing
To build wealth
To grow something
To nurture life
To breastfeed
To help Cinderella grow


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